Exchanges

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” ― Anaïs Nin, poet.

I read this book once about a brother and sister who divvied up the world when they were young (metaphorically of course), and as they got older they would exchange parts of the world when one wanted something out of the other. One owned the moon, the stars, the mountains, plants, and certain animals, while the other owned the sun, the trees, the flowers, and the ocean. It was quite a powerful game they were playing, since as the storyline developed, it became a game about the extents each of them were willing to go for one another. Although, it was metaphorical, both of them realised that they would give up the sun, moon, stars, and all seven oceans if it meant keeping  each other safe.

 


 

Today is National Best Friends day, and it is such an amazing and lovely day to have exist in our lives. I’ve had my fare share of friendships, and I’ve always been told that nothing can really last forever, but the more I think about it, I think friendships are the only thing that last forever. Trust me though, I definitely also have had my fare share of fights with friends that have led to abrupt bitter endings.

I remember in primary school telling my friends that we would grow old together and be the bestest friends forever, cut to now, the only way I communicate with them is through every once in a while liking their Instagram posts. And it is not something that makes me sad, or that I feel offended by, because I’ve come to terms with the fact that friends walk into your life and build your world at the exact time frame in which you need them.

In primary school my friends helped build my life when we were trying to recreate High School Musical at recess, or we while sharing ghost stories on the bus rides home after school, or we when passing notes about our crushes during class (which granted, my only crush back then was Drake Bell, but you get what I’m saying). Those people gave me a childhood, which is quite powerful. I may only see their faces now and then on Instagram, but what we gave each other in exchange is way more than each of us could have asked from one another. Now, even though I am watching them graduate from afar, I know that they gave me their own version of ‘best friends forever’ at the time that I needed it.

What I’m trying to say is that, yes, the physical presence of friends doesn’t last forever, nor does the relationship in a sense, but their essence is not something you will ever get rid of, especially if they loved you.

Now that high school is over, time is starting to feel a little bit counted. I feel a mixture of excitement but also like someone is squeezing my heart. Because the new worlds that my friends have built, is a little bit more meaningful and it is something that I’m going to have to say goodbye to soon.  

There’s the friends who see and comfort me through heartbreaks, the friends who take out the best in me, the friends who show up for me at meaningful moments, the friends with which I have celebrated many special occasions with, the ones I can trust anything with, and the friends that suffered high school along with me (haha). This exchange of time and effort is a lot more demanding and meaningful than the ones I had when I was younger. My best friends now, have given me acceptance and love, which is all I needed to get through this specific time in my life (which makes my heart flutter every time I think about it), but I can only hope I have done the same for them.

What’s so cool and lovely about your best friends is that they own a specific version of you and you of them. No other friend holds the same version of you as another friend, and you as well hold a very special version of someone that no one else has. You hold their childhood, their high school years, their college years, and if you’re very very lucky, you may hold a whole lifetime.

With friends, you are constantly making very powerful exchanges. Past and present, give you flowers, or trees, or stars, and they’ve slowly built your unique world. Each of them represent an era of you and are sometimes the reason of you being the way that you are. You pick up their mannerisms, their sense of humor, their interests become yours as well, and that is why I think it is so exciting to celebrate them in our lives.

Happy Best Friends Day!

To all of my friends, like the title of the book,

I’ll give you the sun.


 

Okay Hi! My brother took this pic, so maybe follow him on Insta? @jorgeallenrojas

Also, song recommendation:

‘The Best You Had’ by Nina Nesbitt

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